What I have realized in life, and maybe it's something you already know, is that we are all in constant motion. And I don't just mean our bodies or even our minds. But I mean who we want to be, who we are today, is probably not the person that we were a year ago, or even a week ago. And so, what happens is that the things that we're doing on a daily basis may not be in alignment with the person that we are or the person that we want to be. And I'm totally stealing the word alignment from someone who I've been talking to recently, but let's go with that because it has really clarified for me this concept of making sure that my daily actions and daily habits are in alignment with this person that I want to be, and the person that I need to be.
Of course, we're not forgetting the fact that on some levels what I need to be is a wife and a mom and a provider, and I need to make sure my kids are fed and loved and happy. But if we make sure all of that, then I can focus on making sure they're fed and loved and happy by being the person that I truly want to be. And I imagine or rather I know, it's something that I am going to be working on for the rest of my life.
What I will say is, it's a two-step process that can probably be broken down in 100 steps. But I'm gonna start with two: figure out who you want to be or what you want to be, maybe when you grow up or tomorrow, and then you need to make sure that your behavior is aligned with your actions. Maybe it's only 15 minutes a day, but whatever your actions are, you need to make sure that they line up with who it is you want to be and who it is you need to be. Your actions, your habits, when you take time for yourself, you need to make sure that they all line up.
I have to say, when it happens — and it's beginning to happen more and more for me — it's like magic, you know? And this is something I imagine that I'm gonna have to keep re-evaluating because the actions that I have been taking recently were for the person that I wanted to be 2, 3, 4 years ago. And that just wasn't working for me anymore. And so now, I'm working on taking actions that have to do with the person that I want to be now, and I've got to tell you, it's pretty great. It's pretty great when things all line up together.
So that's my wish for you today, on this beautiful Friday, is that you figure out what it is that you want to be or who you want to be and you start trying to figure out a simple question:
Does what I'm doing right now line up with who I want to be or is it a struggle for me to do it?